How to Fix your Marriage?

To start with, you need to know whether the marriage is worth putting all the extra effort into. As long as your partner is showing signs that they want to work on the relationship as well as you, then you have a good chance of being successful. But if your partner has clearly stated that this is the end, then you will need to respect that and give them some space.

You may know of other couples who have remained together just because it may be the easiest option, or because they don't want to upset the children involved. But these reasons are not always enough. Having your partners commitment to equally working on mending the relationship is a fantastic start to working things out.
Figuring out what the exact problems are in your marriage, is your next step. This step is important to get right as the symptoms of some problems can easily be mistaken for the problems themselves. An example which many of us confuse for the cause of many break ups is an affair.

An affair is just a symptom of another problem in your relationship. A partner straying can be caused by actual lack of intimacy. In this example, the cause of a break up was not the affair itself, but the little intimacy.
The most important thing you can take from this step is to deal with the underlying problem to stop any nasty symptoms from occuring. Focusing on the core problems will allow you to save your marriage.

Once you have pinpointed the core issue, you need to begin to talk about it. Let your spouse know exactly how you are feeling and then listen to how they are feeling. When you have your feelings on the table, it is a lot easier to start putting a plan together to fix your problems.

Then take steps towards putting your plan in action. One idea is to put aside one night a week for you to spend time together, preferably alone. And lastly, mending your relationship will not happen overnight. Keep in mind that there will probably be more tears, as well as laughter, to move forward. You will need to remain patient along the way and be ready to apologise quickly.